Memory--that is our subjective interpretation of reality--is a state of being, true, but...
outside the Internet, we reconcile that perception against the intrinsic world by figuring out if our perceptions contain contradictions or not, because outside the Internet the law of non-contradiction is the law that dictates how the world functions.
Hence, the solution is to use the Wired, a source of infinite power over everyone’s individual realities, to make it so that the true reality does follow strict rules and so people can overcome the otherwise-inherently subjective nature of existence.
And then, in order to make sure things stay that way, ensure that nobody except Lain ever has full access to that deeper system of abstract control again.
And ultimately, Lain comes to accept this as her role to play in the world: an omnipresent god who can influence and appear in the real world whenever she likes, but more importantly serves to keep humans in the real world happy and functional without ever becoming a meme.
Lain’s father, who ends up being the true God of this universe, was right from the start.
The Wired is an amazing tool for communication, but should never extend beyond that, lest reality be allowed to crumble.
And that’s enough for Lain. An omnipresence not in the Wired but in the real, true reality, she’s made a connection with all of humanity.
She no longer needs to wear her bear pajamas, because she’s found love through escaping memes and ascending to true godhood:
Power over the actual world, not just people’s individual realities.
Up in the sky with her father, she’s home at last, having finally become the living incarnation of the law of identity; there to protect love from the abstract void of the Internet.
So in short, Lain argues against over-indulgence in the Internet, because when one lives the majority of their life in a world that does not make sense, they become isolated, broken, and potentially fractured even on an individual level beyond repair.
The tragedy of all of this, however, is that none of this ever seems to be understood by the Lain fandom in the real world.
And she turned out just as much of a memetic ideal to be projected onto as she is in the show, Nobody ever followed the show's lesson about the internet being a useful tool but destructive if anything else.
Instead, 'Let’s all love Lain' has become a meme on places like Arisuchan and Lainchan, she’s viewed as a waifu, worshiped as a God and looked up to as an ideal to be aspired towards by many, and all of this is the very thing that the show tried to stop.
And yet you find an endless sea of people with identical Lain avatars floating across the Internet, assuming her identity in the same way that caused her so much pain.
You see YouTubers like Sight of Delirium making Lain-inspired content designed to do nothing but vent sadness.
You see videos like Princess Punderphonics’ 'Image Boards and Lain Worship' taken as complete affirmation of Lain as a deity.
Scenes like from the final minutes of The End of Trash where in the main character manically repeats to himself over and over that he needs to upload his consciousness to the internet and to become Lain.
The tag line “make me sad, make me mad, make me feel, alright?” that one finds across so much Lain fan art and wallpaper is the ultimate canvas for self-projection; no feelings means Lain’s whatever you want her to be.
And so the broken souls of the deep internet--kept that way by the structure of the internet itself--have eternally trapped Lain in the senseless cult of personality that she spent the entire series fighting to escape.
She has become nothing more than her own teddy bear.